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Are you allowed to say no to Christmas?
Are you allowed to say no to Christmas?

Are you allowed to say no to Christmas?

For many of us, Christmas is the exact same every year; You're most likely at home with your family and the festivities are often associated with a lot of stress.

But does this really have to be this way? Is it okay to say ‘No’ if you don't feel like it? What happens then?

Read on to learn how to make Christmas your own.

You can celebrate the way you want.

If you feel compelled to celebrate Christmas in a certain way, you’ll end up in a bad mood. But you know what? It doesn't have to be that way. 

It's a mistake to think that you have to please anyone just because it's Christmas. We understand that your family, relatives, or friends expect you to spend Christmas with them. But it's important to talk about expectations. Just because they have them doesn’t mean you have to fulfill them, especially if it doesn't make you happy. 

It simply doesn't make sense to force yourself to do something you wouldn’t enjoy.

You don't have to celebrate with your parents and relatives, or with your partner's parents and relatives. It’s okay to say no. 

If you are only present to meet the expectations of others and to not disappoint anyone, it will certainly reflect in your mood. That, in turn, can get weird and uncomfortable for everyone involved.

Spend Christmas according to your wishes and ideas.

What would a really amazing Christmas look like for you? A Christmas party with your dearest friends? In a snowy cabin in the mountains with your partner? At the Icehotel Jukkasjärvi in ​​Lapland? Or all alone at home with yourself and a good book?

You don't have to give anything to anyone.

The same applies to gifts. If you don't feel like giving gifts this year, that’s perfectly reasonable. No need to stress yourself and get a Christmas present for tens of people.

Talk to all the people you would normally give presents to, and tell them that you will not do that this year and that you also don’t expect a gift from anyone. Chances are you’ll do them (and their wallets) a favor. 

As a result, you are clear and direct in your communication and don't even get into a situation in which you think you have to return a favor.

If you don't want to abstain from gift-giving altogether, but also don't feel like emptying your piggy bank, we found some alternatives for you.

  1. Do it yourself. Write a personal letter to an important person in your life, create a book of shared memories, or bake up some tasty treats.
  2. Time is the most valuable thing we have and a great gift! Just think about how many different ideas you can come up with to give away your time.
  3. Nothing is more sustainable than learning new skills and there are a lot of great opportunities out there. Do you know everything about wild herbs? Give a wild herb walking-tour. Do you know how to build cool furniture yourself? How about a DIY furniture class with you? Are you a yoga guru? Surely someone is looking forward to a private hour with you!

You don't have to prepare anything.

If you look forward to the holidays to do nothing, then that’s exactly what you should do. You don't have to prepare or do anything. Just make yourself comfortable at home, cuddle up and watch movies, entirely without a guilty conscience and without stress.

What do you want for Christmas?

As you can see, you don't have to adhere to the same tired traditions every year. You don't have to do what you think is required of you. You don't have to do what you think your family and relatives expect from you. You can also celebrate Christmas alone, or with your friends, or on vacation.

So how should Christmas be for you? Stressful, completely relaxed, or a big party? You decide.

Think about what a great Christmas would look like for you. What do you want to do most this year? With whom do you want to spend the holidays? And where?

Dare to do what you feel like doing and have fun doing it. Make yourself the best Christmas present by making it your own awesome Christmas feast. And most important: Look forward to it, because you have a free choice!

Elisabeth Hulin
Junior Marketing Manager @ Zuper. Elisabeth is an open-minded storyteller with a passion for self-improvement and unexpected connections. Her articles are packed to the brim with new ideas, guides and tutorials to help you save more money every day!
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